Boooo! Happy Halloween!
Thought we’d talk about a
big fear that many people have…the fear of Communicating!
More than anything else communication
fears can limit and torment us! This
fear can prevent us from meeting new people, strengthening our relationships,
moving ahead in our careers…and generally overall connecting with our fellow
humans!
Jerry Seinfeld made famous
the line about funerals and public speaking: “According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking.
Number two is death. Does
this sound right? This means to the average
person, if you go to a funeral, you’re
better off in the casket that doing the eulogy.”
C’mon…let’s take that
scary communication fear by its spooky, scrawny neck and gain control! Get your
bucket of Halloween candy, enjoy the communication ideas below…and conquer
those fears!
Fear can be a good
thing! It reminds us of our humanity,
keeps us from getting hurt and activates our “fight or flight” reactions to
protect us in threatening situations. As
communicators however, we need to overcome the fear that may prevent us from
trying to connect with others!
FDR said “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” His wife’s challenge inspires me more: “do
one thing every day that scares you.” Eleanor recognized the value of
fear and moved forward!
So what kind of
communication fears do people have? Here are a few for you to do a
self-assessment: fear of public
speaking, meeting new people, asking for help, asking someone out on a date,
asking for a sale, asking for a promotion, being rejected, etc….
“Who you gonna call…Ghostbusters!” and what can you do
about it? Here are some ideas about overcoming
communication fears. It might be
challenging at first, but keep at it!
#1 – Acknowledge, identify
and claim your fear! Determine what your
fear is – detail it and write it down.
#2 – Get motivated! Understand the misery this fear is giving you
and take action!
#3 – Learn the tools and
techniques to conquer this fear! Take
some courses, get some coaching, and get ideas from trusted sources. Learn how to conquer this fear and be
relentless! Stay motivated!
#4 – You’re going to make
some mistakes…but keep at it! A few
stumbles will actually help you. Learn
from your mistakes and “war wounds” and you’ll start seeing progress! Your confidence will grow!
#5 – Remember,
communication skills are different than technical skills – if you don’t use
them, you’ll lose them! Don’t let those
fears sneak back in! The more you
practice – the more you’ll learn and the better you’ll get!
Only by pushing through
our fears in communication (and life) are we able to grow and succeed. Commit to taking action! Change is scary….but slaying that
dragon will be worth it!
Betti
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