Everyone wants successful relationships where they can
trust, have faith and rely on others! What makes for great relationships in
both business and in our personal lives?
How we present ourselves, what we stand for and how we expect others to
present themselves is what makes relationships successful or not successful.
The first step is starting with respect. If we don’t respect those we have
relationships with, in both our personal and professional lives, it’s going to
be hard for us to feel safe and trust others. Without respect – there’s not
going to be a real relationship! Trust is an important factor in everything we
do and we seek people we can trust! So
starting with respect – it is the first building block and
foundation for trust.
Respect has to be earned. Our actions will either build up or tear down
trust – and once it’s damaged – it’s hard to build back. To build respect we must act with real
authenticity and integrity. And we must respect ourselves.
Authenticity is where we learn to be real. Too often I see people who are fake and
phony. We all have known people who are
“counterfeit” – and we walk away, never feeling comfortable in trusting them.
When someone is authentic it’s easy to believe they are what and who they say
they are.
Part of being authentic is when someone is congruent with
both their actions and words. They do what they say they’re going to do! You
can rely and count on them! When a person is congruent it becomes easy to trust
what they say and not have to worry about being taken advantage of.
Integrity is what it’s all about. When you tell the truth, no matter how rough
and tough it is, you are being authentic and will be seen as having integrity. Integrity
to me is all about honesty and fairness. This means that we are fair to both others
and ourselves in the dealings we have every day.
There will always be conflicts of interest in our
lives. Integrity is what allows us to
ask ourselves what the conflicts are and what is the best way to manage them. Leaders know that when you manage conflicts
well – you will be trusted and respected by those around you – no matter how
tough the situation and outcome.
I’ll be honest... those who show all these traits are the
people I want to be around, have as friends, do business with and have in my
life. These are people that always think
about being honest, fair, are authentic, have integrity and are
trustworthy. They are the people I
admire the most, want to learn from and have strong relationships with. They
are invaluable!
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