Leading with Authenticity, Integrity, Respect, and Trust

Everyone wants successful relationships where they can trust, have faith and rely on others! What makes for great relationships in both business and in our personal lives?  How we present ourselves, what we stand for and how we expect others to present themselves is what makes relationships successful or not successful.

The first step is starting with respect.  If we don’t respect those we have relationships with, in both our personal and professional lives, it’s going to be hard for us to feel safe and trust others. Without respect – there’s not going to be a real relationship! Trust is an important factor in everything we do and we seek people we can trust!  So starting with respect – it is the first building block and foundation for trust.

Respect has to be earned.  Our actions will either build up or tear down trust – and once it’s damaged – it’s hard to build back.  To build respect we must act with real authenticity and integrity. And we must respect ourselves.

Authenticity is where we learn to be real.  Too often I see people who are fake and phony.  We all have known people who are “counterfeit” – and we walk away, never feeling comfortable in trusting them. When someone is authentic it’s easy to believe they are what and who they say they are.

Part of being authentic is when someone is congruent with both their actions and words. They do what they say they’re going to do! You can rely and count on them! When a person is congruent it becomes easy to trust what they say and not have to worry about being taken advantage of.

Integrity is what it’s all about.  When you tell the truth, no matter how rough and tough it is, you are being authentic and will be seen as having integrity. Integrity to me is all about honesty and fairness.  This means that we are fair to both others and ourselves in the dealings we have every day. 

There will always be conflicts of interest in our lives.  Integrity is what allows us to ask ourselves what the conflicts are and what is the best way to manage them.  Leaders know that when you manage conflicts well – you will be trusted and respected by those around you – no matter how tough the situation and outcome. 

I’ll be honest... those who show all these traits are the people I want to be around, have as friends, do business with and have in my life.  These are people that always think about being honest, fair, are authentic, have integrity and are trustworthy.  They are the people I admire the most, want to learn from and have strong relationships with. They are invaluable!

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Thoughts for Memorial Day

 As we celebrate this Memorial Day, I thought I’d share with you a very special thought:

“But the freedom that they fought for and the country grand they wrought for,

The greatest glory of a free-born people is to transmit that freedom to their children.”

William Havard

My friends, as you remember the sacrifices that have been made to secure our freedoms, have a safe and blessed Memorial Day – make it special!

Enjoy this day with your friends and family – appreciate and “ride every stride”!

Betti

Body Language

Body language is not just how we hold and move our bodies…it also encompasses:

• How we position our bodies when sitting, standing, leaning…
• Our closeness to others, the space between others, and us and how it changes
• Our facial expressions
• Our eyes especially and how we move and focus them (are you an “eye-roller”???)
• How we touch others and ourselves in a conversation
• How our bodies connect with things like pens, cigarettes, spectacles, clothing, furniture, etc.
• Our breathing, our heartbeats and perspiration
• Our voices…very important!  The pace, pitch, volume, variation, pauses, intonation…

Body Language is especially crucial when you’re meeting someone for the first time! We form our opinions of someone we meet for the first time in just a few seconds, and this initial instinctual assessment is based much more on what we see and feel about the other person than on the words they speak!  On many occasions we form a strong view about someone before they can speak even a single word! And remember…this works both ways!

  

When you understand the importance of body language – you have a gift that will give you a significant advantage in life – professionally and personally!

Body Language is a powerful concept that successful people tend to understand very well.  Make it work for you…with HorsePower!  

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Understanding Body Language and Strengthening Your Non-Verbal Communication Skills

An essential part of communication and strengthening your interaction skills is understanding body language.  Understanding “Non-Verbal Communication” is critical in not only recognizing, appreciating, learning and gaining perspective into another person’s feelings and thoughts – but also in knowing how you yourself are being perceived!

Body language refers to the nonverbal signals that we use to communicate.  These nonverbal signals are a large part of our daily communications and interactions with others.  From our facial expressions to our body movements, the things we don’t say are incredibly important and can convey volumes of information!

 

Body language and non-verbal communication is thought to account for between 50-70% of all communication!

Body language is relevant to all types of interactions – management, leadership, all aspects of work and business… in addition to personal, family, parental relationships and bonds.

Communication includes listening and observing… a special type of witnessing, studying and perceiving of observable body language, messages, non-verbal signals. 

Body language can go both ways… 

Your own body language reveals your feelings and meanings to others! Do you know what messages you’re sending to others?

Other people’s body language reveals their feelings and meanings to you!

Be aware of the messages you’re sending out…and getting in. 

And remember...those body signals happen on conscious and unconscious levels!

Always keep in mind that body language is not an exact science and no single body language sign is a reliable indicator.

Understanding body language involves the interpretation of several consistent signals to support a particular conclusion…so don’t be too quick to jump to an assumption!

When you understand the importance of body language – you have a gift that will give you a significant advantage in life – professionally and personally!

Body Language is a powerful concept that successful people tend to understand very well.  Make it work for you…with HorsePower!  

For more information on Body Language and other communication topics, contact me at http://www.betticoffeypresents.com/contact-betti.html